• Disability issues

    What to Do When Plans Go Wrong and Do We Need Them?

    Plans can be important when you have a disability or chronic illness. If they don’t work out does it make you feel anxious? Believe me, it’s not just you. As a full time wheelchair user, my life has limitations. In September last year I decided to start a blog. It gave me something to focus on. I love writing and up to then had just kept a journal where I wrote about anything and everything, especially after my MS diagnosis. I realised over time that plans were an essential part of living with a disability if life was to run smoothly. Any outing has to be an almost military exercise.…

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    How it feels to live with chronic illness

    Six things I learned that may help “Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life”. – Seneca – Letters from a Stoic These are wise words indeed, especially if you are living with a chronic illness or are a disabled person, when everyday can bring different symptoms, different feelings and obstacles. Not so easy though is it? Yesterday, I gave in. For two days I had been feeling awful, deep down I knew why, but, as usual, I kept going. For two weeks before Christmas I was busy as we all are. Being in a wheelchair doesn’t mean I get away with not planning…

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    How do we change attitudes

    Disabled people are not another species I started this Blog with no clear idea of exactly what I was going to write about. The idea was that I didn’t want to be defined by my disability. The thing is, I have since realised that it is so much a part of my life – it IS my life – that I write everything from the perspective of a disabled person. When I read the newspaper to gain ideas and information for my writing I am instantly drawn to disability issues. Inevitable? Probably. Two news stories caught my eye today. Although they are different, they both relate to how disabled people…

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    Living the very best life you can

    What we can learn from the Stoics I read an article two or three days ago about how Stoicism can help you be the person you want to be. I took quite a lot from it and considered how I could apply it to my own life Under the heading ‘View from above’ the writer suggests re-evaluating ones life; perhaps in the evening, you review your day and how you feel about things that may have taken place. He writes: ‘How many times have you had a conversation or an interaction with someone and thought afterward “oh man, I should have said that”, or “I wish I hadn’t done that”?‘…

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    Moving Forwards

    How to face your fears and move on Wednesday of this week for me, was momentous. You will probably think that what I am going to say next is not much to write home about! I went out in my new power chair. There it is. I can hear the murmurs ‘and?’ ‘so?’ ‘and that was momentous because….’. Having a power chair after years of depending on other people to be pushed around is a wondrous thing. Having no choice as to where you can go, concern about whether the person pushing is able to manage awkward spaces, being parked while they go down a supermarket aisle or go off…